Tuesday, March 29, 2005

Thoughts about Mom

I went to visit Mom before leaving for Iowa to visit Britton over Easter weekend on March 23rd.
She had just had two teeth pulled that morning and was in pain. But handling it well. We had a good visit. She was laying in bed but dressed. Her hair looked nice.
The nurses call me about every week now - did tonight - that she has fallen. They have started using a wheelchair some today. When she fell today it was while she was using her walker.
She is still sleeping alot and only getting about one meal a day. But, she is maintaining her weight.
As I told Sharon and Trish; I thank God and feel blessed that she still knows us. That is a big thing.
I took her a picture of Oscar and Edna's 57th Anniversary that their children had for them.

Saturday, March 05, 2005


Mom and I have often talked about death. We've talked about the process, the event itself, and what happens afterwards. We both feel the same way, that is, we both admit we do not know what happens. We can have hopes, beliefs, even faith of what will happen, but we do not know. Both of us are also not scared of death, but don't like the thought of a possible painful path up to it. We both hope for either an easy path, a quick path, or the strength to see whatever through...

Wednesday, March 02, 2005

Same here

Delphine, we've had the same thing happen with Aunt Harriet, our Mom. I've had many close calls, near misses, sorta misses, and all out misses and horrific messes! It definitely makes it nearly impossible to take someone out who is that incontinent. When a person gets so physically weak that they are entirely dependent on you to lift them, clean them, etc., you need to have more than person, or a mechanical lift, or at the very least training and a back brace. We are not doing our mothers or ourselves any favors by pretending we can continue life as we've known it. Things are not only changing, they HAVE changed. It's hard to face, but it's the truth...

About Mom

My first cousin from Wis. was here for a visit. Wanted to see my Mother. We went and picked Mom up at the nursing home. She was asleep as she usually is these days. We woke her up and took her with us to the Club. Had a really good time and a good visit. However Mom had a "bad" accident while we were there and no sensation or idea at all that it had happened. So we had to get her back to the home. I got 2 aides in to clean her up and put her to bed. When these things happen I get afraid to take her out anymore. I have wanted to take her to Las Cruces 75 miles away to get new shoes but I won't be doing that now. She walks very little so I guess it isn't really necessary. What would I do if this would happen in my car. I do take her out once a week to get her hair done and she will be getting a perm nest week. But if many more of this sort of incident and I will no longer be able to do that either. I wonder how things like this can happen and they have no sensation of feeling it??