Sunday, April 20, 2003


Mom gave me a pleasant surprise today. I called her from church during our Youth Breakfast and she WAS UP and dressed!! She wanted to go to church. I was totally shocked. She has not made it up nor desired to go to church in probably a year. Bill went and picked her up and she enjoyed the service. She then came out to our place for a traditional Ham Easter dinner. Where we all "stuffed" ourselves!!

Mom talked alot today but did not cry once about Dad. Not that she doesn't other times; but it's good to have a nice visit her. Sharon called while she was here and they had a good talk as well. My son Randy and Grandma had a good visit too.

I just wanted anyone who reads this to know that even at 82 years old; there are moments in time that we still enjoy having our mother here. We were at the "window" today - as they say - and she was there too...

Monday, April 14, 2003

'Full recovery...takes two to three years rather than a year. In the older age group, it appears that a few never fully recover their former state of health and well being. As one woman, in her mid-sixties put it five years after her husband's death, "Mourning never ends: only as time goes on, it erupts less frequently." '
The excerpt above is from an article entitled How Long Does Active Grieving Last?. It reminded me of Mom, and how the absence of Dad by her side is still very painful for her, still popping up at every train whistle, despite it being over a year and a half now. Considering their closeness and the length of their relationship, it's small wonder she's still actively grieving.